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Christmas time is getting close and the North Pole has shifted into high gear. The elves are pushing out toys at full steam, the reindeer are working out in the reindeer gym to get ready for the trip, and the North Pole Post Office is stuffed with each child's Santa letter that needs to be sent out. The children can't go without the letters from Santa. The North Pole is in a state of complete pandemonium. You household could be in that same shape if you don't plan ahead a bit to avoid the Christmas rush. Prior Proper Planning Prevent Poor Performance. That is very true. Christmas never "sneaks up" on anybody. It's the same day every year so just plan for it and you will avoid those headaches you get from waiting till the last minute. Christmas cards and letters are an obvious place to start. By the end of October you already know who you will be sending cards to. Of course it is too early to send them but not to early to address them and even sign them. Many families include a little form letter giving an update on what the family has been up to. Those can be added when you mail them to make sure they are up to date, but the family pictures can be ordered and ready to go in with the letter. Gifts are a little like the cards in that you should get as much done early as you can. Now the after Christmas sales are too early to do much Christmas shopping for the next year, but sometimes you can get a lot of stocking stuffers that you know you'll use. Go ahead and get those candy canes, they'll be fine in a year and they are 80% off. Little things that find there way into stockings are good too. Your next shopping time would be at the end of winter. You really can't by clothes for the kids (you'll never know how big they'll get) but you can get winter socks, scarves and such for the kids and winter classics for adults. Now you have the rest of the year to pick up things as you go. When someone says "I'd love one of those for Christmas" go ahead and pick one up before you forget about it later. And things go on sale all year so pick things up if you were going to use it as a gift in a few months anyway. Then there is the internet which is like the worlds largest mall. Order early though because you will want to have all the ones you already have wrapped by Thanksgiving. Wrapping is not too bad when you do a little at time. Last is your baking and candies. Instead of doing it a little at a time, try to do it all at once. That alone will save you time from cleaning the kitchen several times. It also lets you make extras to give all the folk that you really don't buy presents for but still want to give them a little some in the spirit of the holiday season. Planning ahead and trying to do as much as you can as you can early will help cut down on the holiday stress. Don't worry about missing all the festive holiday crowds, the last minute shopping will give you your fill without driving you to sleepless night and worry lines.

No matter the age of your grandchildren, as their grandparent you will want to provide a safe and loving environment for them. Making sure of this is normally not that easy because children enter new exploratory phases in life all the time and they come up with new ideas and they also achieve greater independence as they grow older. There are several steps you should follow as a grandparent in order to keep your grandchildren safe. You have spent many years decorating your house with furniture, personal treasures and trinkets you have collected, but with grandchildren, certain considerations must be taken. You can lose or break many items when your grandchildren are at your house. Things like flower vases, coffee tables that have sharp edges, a cupboard full of cleaners that may be poisonous to the children will need to be moved or and cupboards locked. Another important thing to do is to move all medicines to somewhere the children will not be able to reach and also make sure the packaging is child resistant. Cabinets that have these medicines should also include strong latches and locks. You are also supposed to make sure the children do not come into contact with sharp objects by moving all breakable objects in the house out of children's reach. This will include objects such as knives and other sharp objects. To make sure of this close and lock the dish washer and make sure that your trash can has a secure lid. All rooms that need not be left unlocked should be secured. Children often fall but it is important to avoid serious falls by putting up safety gates that stretch across the top and bottom of the stairs. These gates should be strong enough so that children are not able to push them open too easily because this could lead to some very serious accidents that could end up with hospitalization or worse. It is also important to install window guards that attach to your window frame so that they don't fall out of the windows. These guards include metal bars that are normally spaced closely together and they keep the children safe especially when the windows are open. Window stops can also be a big help especially for windows that are more than four inches wide; in that no one can open the bottom section. It is important to keep one window unguarded in each room to be used as the fire escape and it should always be locked. Water heaters are supposed to be turned down to 120 degrees to avoid the children from getting burns. You can also install anti-scald devices on all your faucets to avoid children from moving the tap. Shocks can also be avoided by covering all your electrical appliances and plugs and using duct tape to cover up all naked electrical wires; or better yet, get an electrician to fix them. Furniture should also be fitted with corner and edge bumpers. Other safety devices that you should have include smoke detectors, fire extinguishers and carbon monoxide detectors.

"Honor Thy Father and Thy Mother." But what if your father and mother didn't honor you? What if instead of loving and honoring you they physically, sexually and emotionally abused you? What if you were scared every day of your growing up years? And what if, when you finally grow up and start to face the fact that your family of origin abused you, and through some therapy finally gain the courage to confront them with the abuse, they completely deny it and tell you that you are crazy? Do you stay in that family system or leave it? There is little cultural sympathy, support, information, or education for adult children who are starting to face the fact that their family of origin abused them, and often their abusive family is still trying to get them to stay in the family system and play their programmed role. One of the members of our Inner Bonding website asked me to write an article about this topic. "I see so many adults suffering in family relationships they believe they're supposed to maintain, regardless of the cost to their integrity and health. More than anything, they're lacking alternative role models and supportive information." Most people can't even conceive of how or why exiting a family of origin might be a very loving action. If you come from a highly abusive family who has done no healing and is in denial of the abuse, this is a deeply crazy-making situation. Staying in this situation only perpetuates the abuse that you are trying to heal. As a child, you didn't have a choice, but as an adult, you don't have to stay in an abusive and crazy-making situation, regardless of the pressure being put upon you. WHO ARE YOU RESPONSIBLE FOR? What is most important here is to understand that you are not responsible for how your family feels about and reacts to your decision to disengage from them. While you might have been brought up to play the role of caretaker for your family, or you have played the role of the identified patient, you are not obligated to continue to play that role. In fact, healing involves letting go of responsibility for them and giving yourself the right and privilege of taking responsibility for yourself. For example, Tara had been physically, sexually and emotionally brutalized by her father and not at all protected by her mother. Her parents continue to expect her to visit them, and she continues to tolerate her father's incredibly mean behavior. "Why do you visit them?" I asked her in one of our phone sessions. "Obligation." "Why are you obligated?" "Because they say I am." "Tara, please open to your inner Guidance and ask if it is loving to you - to your inner child - to continue to put yourself in the line of abuse." "…..No." "Are you willing to make taking loving care of yourself more important than obligation?" "Yes! I didn't know that it was okay to do that!" "How do you feel?" "So relieved!" HONORING YOUR FATHER AND YOUR MOTHER – FROM A DISTANCE! "Tara, you can still pray for your parents' highest good without having to see them. You can still honor the deeply abandoned soul locked away within each of them, without dishonoring yourself by being around abusive behavior. Your responsibility is to take loving care of yourself and share your love with those who love you, rather than allowing yourself to continue to be abused." You do not owe your parents for having you, or for feeding and clothing you. You are not obligated to see them. You might choose to take care of them out of your caring for them, or even because it feels right to you to do that, but when being around them is deeply harmful to you, please consider disengaging from them.

As the issue of global warming is getting hotter and hotter, taking part on minimizing its effects is more encouraged. The changes to green alternatives on a simple rust removal treatment to big company processes are evidences of how serious of a matter it is. After all, it is the this planet's future and everything in it that is at stake. Going green actually is much simpler than others think. Many assume it takes so much time and work. Others even go as far as thinking that it is too expensive to be bothered with. However, all those are nothing but mere assumptions of how going green goes. In truth, you and anybody else can go green with simple and easy to follow steps. It doesn't even require money just to be fulfilled. True, there are some green means that need spending however, the financial requirement is usually not too big. There are also some that are exceptionally expensive steps but then again, you are free to choose to either go for them or not. If you don't have the money needed or simply not willing to spend, there are various eco-friendly steps that require no less than your time and work. However, do not take that as a warning for the exhaustion and stress that you might get among zero-expenses going green techniques because hardly will they cause difficulties. As a matter of fact, they are actually fun work. If done with your family, those techniques can even have greater impact to you, to others and to the earth. Going green with your family can be at first a little confusing. As it involves the whole household, there are various things that require some getting used to. The perk though is that, in every process that you work, you can incorporate going green steps and share that with any of your family members. Take for example in your cleaning. You can be of help to the environment by using natural cleaning products. Another is in your rust removal process. The use of organic rust removers is a help in reducing the chemicals in your home. Simple steps as they are, are already a big part in preserving the earth and they will be a much bigger help if you get your family involved with it. Additional examples includes recycling and reusing still usable wastes. Making your children part of the recycling and reusing process does not only benefit the earth but also your children and yourself. How? Simply because by doing so, you are imparting wit them practical knowledge like resourcefulness and caring for the environment. Even your family bonding time can be turned green with various activities that are fun and eco-friendly at the same time. A picnic at a natural park or a visit to a natural resort or environmentally friendly club can sure guarantee a fun and earth-preserving time together. Biking, walking, mountain climbing and other nature-oriented activities can also promise a family time well spent. Indeed, going green with your family is a very productive step. It gives you and your family some time to have fun and share moments together in a way that benefits not only each other but also the environment.

Every year around October many people start to realise that the year is disappearing, yet again and Christmas is fast approaching. A lot of people don't live in the same country as most of their family and old friends and they are often terrible at staying in touch. Christmas gives those people the great opportunity to reach out to those friends and family that they have not updated about their lives for most of the year, as well as of course those who are near and dear to them where they currently reside. One way they can do this is through the use of Christmas greeting cards. Now with so many online Christmas card ordering options available and the ability to create your own personalised Christmas cards it is easier than ever before. You can include text in the card that you have written yourself as well as pictures or themes that work well with either the year you have had or the place that you now reside. You can often choose funny Christmas cards, depending of course on how your family will react but most people find that they can find a humorous Christmas card that fits in with all members of their family. A bit of a laugh at Christmas never goes astray and when you have made your list of those you wish to send your card to you should easily be able to decide what kind of funny Christmas card will suit all. Make sure you stay away from jokes that may be a bit over the top, you may have your grandmother or grandfather on your Christmas card list and you don't want to upset anyone. If you are not sure about your choice for your funny Christmas card test it out on someone locally and see if they laugh or not, if they find it funny then you should be safe to send the same joke to your elderly relatives. You know who you will be sending the card to so it shouldn't be too hard to pick something fun. Many people spend a lot of time in their picture choices as well such as including pictures of their children dressed for Christmas or even family pets. I guess you can call this more of a modern Christmas card in that you are not using traditional choices. Families and friends always love to see pictures of their relatives and you will usually find that they will be keeping the cards long after Christmas has passed. When you make your own personalised Christmas cards you can include a lot of information in them to update your friends and relatives. You don't of course want to include any sad or depressing news. Christmas cards should bring smiles to the faces of the people you send them to. Whether they are smiles of the funny Christmas cards you sent or just the mere emotional response of receiving a card from you. You want a happy emotional response so stay away from anything bad that may have happened to you over the last year. Keep your card and the information you include light and cheerful so it will bring a smile to the face of everyone. With personalised Christmas cards you add your personality as well as getting the great opportunity to let everyone know that you remember them and wish them the best for the festive season. Whether you go for a traditional Christmas card or a more modern example the thought itself is what matters and your family and friends will thank you for taking the effort. Don't be boring and go with normal generic cards, find yourself an online Christmas card option that suits your personality and get going, Christmas will be on the doorstep very soon.

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