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There is nothing more pathetic and unattractive than jealousy. I have yet to find anything productive that comes from being jealous. It makes you do stupid things, and it makes her stop liking you.

Here is something that you MUST accept... If she is going to cheat on you, raging jealousy will only speed along the process. It certainly won't stop her. You have to develop the attitude that "if she's going to cheat on me, I want it to happen." That way you can move on to better things.

Yes, as with anything, sometimes a person will respond well to you showing a little emotion. But trust me, you are MUCH better off never being jealous than searching for just the right amount of jealousy.

The reason is that jealousy automatically signals insecurity. And nobody wants to be with someone that is insecure. Girls want to be with the catch, the prize, someone who knows he's got a lot to offer. They don't want to be with someone who thinks she is going to leave him for every guy she talks to. And here's a hint, if you let her know you're afraid of her leaving you, then she probably will.

You must keep your life that you had before you started dating. This will help tremendously with jealousy. Jealousy usually comes as the result of not having any other options. When you are that afraid of losing someone, every little thing can be seen as a threat. So you have to keep your life outside of the relationship strong. I'm not saying you should keep other girls on the line, but you should know that you can go out and get another girl the next day if you have to. If you have a great life, you won't freak out over the little things, because you will be fine no matter what happens.

Put yourself in her shoes. If you talk to someone of the opposite sex, it doesnt mean that you are interested in them. The same goes for her. Just because she has friends of the opposite sex, or talks to them occasionally, doesnt mean that she is going to cheat on you. But if you throw a fit every time she does it, it might actually push her away.

So keep your mind off of these paranoid thoughts by staying busy with other interests, and looking at things outside of your emotions. If you can keep this attitude, or at least act like it. You will be more attractive to your partner and your relationships will prosper.

Love sometimes has a funny way to deal with the hearts of people. Even if love seems to be so strong between a man and woman, there are still a number of things that undermine this love and eventually, the lovers do break up. Break up is almost always a sad sight. The emotional investments that each person has put into the relationship, the sleepless nights over quarrels that were smoothed out the next day; or the precious moments that these two lovers have spent together—these are all worth preserving.

Yet, breakups happen. If you have been in one recently, take heart, there are ways for you to win back her heart. Guys do make a lot of mistakes when they are trying to win back the heart of their beloved. They do this because they feel desperate and they panic that they might lose their beloved forever. On the other hand, a number of men feel that they are engaged in a competition where the girl is the “prize” and they have to “win” her back at all cost. Such a mode of thinking rarely works.

Ironically, in order to win back her heart, you need to start thinking of her as the “prize.” Instead, start thinking that you love her and you want the best for her. Do not consider her as the “prize”, you are the prize. With this kind of thinking, you can muster enough courage and creativity to pursue her and win back her heart.

This might sound like conceit to other people or perhaps downright condescension, yet it is not! The people who think this way feel that their girlfriend should be treated like a princess or a queen and do every single thing for them. This is not right! The woman is not your boss. She is your girlfriend and your partner in the activities that you do in life. If you prostrate yourself before her and become like a servant, she might simply look your way and ignore you for the rest of your life. You will not be able to win her heart back in this case.

Try to brush yourself up and take a look at your assets and your good qualities. Enhance them and work on your weak points. Display confidence in pursuing your girl and if she realizes who you really are, then she might be swayed to reciprocate your pursuit of her. Winning back her heart will no longer be your effort if this happens, she will also put her own efforts on the line and before you knew it you did win back her heart and she will be in your arms once more.