It is a nice feeling knowing that you are popular. When other people like you, the world can be a very wonderful place. People who like you are eager to help take care of your needs and desires. Enjoying relationships with other people is a major factor contributing to longevity and happiness, and I am sure that everyone wants to be popular and have many friends. Some people are naturally able to make others like them. Those of us who are not born with this knack can develop it by applying just a few principles.

First of all, we need to be a good listeners. Have you come across people who continue doing their own things even when you are talking? How do you feel? Unimportant, disappointed, disgusted. I feel like stopping in mid-sentence. What is the point of continuing if the other person is not interested? After a few encounters, we won’t return to that person. That is why it is very for us to be good listeners. It doesn’t mean that you don’t talk at all. You nod and smile to show that you are paying attention. You may also need to paraphrase what they have said to show that you understand and are following their flow of thoughts. In fact, you should also listen to the hidden meaning rather than the words themselves. That is what a good listener does.

Now, let me get to the second technique. We create opportunities for people to help us. By helping, I don’t mean helping in ways which will create a lot of inconvenience for them. That will make people stay away from us. To make people like us, we let them help us in small ways so that they feel good themselves. Reflect on the times when you helped others. How did you feel? We feel closer to that person, don’t we? Helping one another creates better relationships among people.

The third point is project a "really useful attitude." Your attitude sets the quality and mood of your thoughts, which in turn influence your voice tone, the words you use, your facial expressions and your body language. Your attitude determines the quality of your relationships. When you project a "really useful attitude," one that is cheery, interested and helpful, other people will want to be around you. It's up to you to choose your attitude. When you project the opposite attitude, they will have the opposite reaction. Very important: make sure your words, tone of voice and gestures are all consistent. When faced with inconsistency among these three ways of delivering a message, people pay most attention to body language, and then to tone of voice -- and surprisingly little to the actual words.

I shall move on to my last point. To make people like us, we need to learn how to compliment others. Flattery creates distrust. The technique is to give specific comments which make the other person feel good. Instead of saying “you are very clever”, say “you have looked at this problem in a way which others have not thought of”. Be observant and look out for opportunities to praise others. We tend to be stingy with praise. Why should we? It’s free. It makes people like us, and we feel good too complimenting others. We need to appreciate people around us all the time, not only at farewells.

Let me recap. Be a good listener. Get help from others. Compliment others. Project a “really useful attitude”. One last word, smile. Now you have some tools which will make you a likeable person.

thank you for reading

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