Dating Someone Who Is Married

Posted in: Relationships in starkids's Blog

By: Rodrigo Rehn

We all believe that we would never date someone who is married and agree to be "the other woman" or "the other man" but this happens quite a bit. Many times we meet someone that we really like, we enjoy spending time with them, and when we are emotionally invested that is when we learn that they are married. In other instances we just ignore our typical moral judgments and we continue to date the person who is married despite what we have always told ourselves.

Dating someone who is married can be challenging in many respects, especially if they are still married and living with someone who doesn't know that they are seeing you! You may find that it is a bit exciting at first, because sometimes it can be very exciting to do things "on the down low" and be the mysterious person that your love interest sneaks away to. After awhile though, it will start to become bothersome to most people because they cannot see their lover when they want to, and they can't call when they want to, and you may even end up spending holidays by yourself.

Sneaking around is only fun for awhile and then it becomes a burden. When we really like someone we want the world to know that we are with them and when you are dating someone who is married it is really difficult to do this. When sneaking around stops being fun you have two options. The first option is just to stop seeing the person and go on your way. You can let them know that it was fun while it lasted but that you are not willing to continue leading a life that is a lie. The other option is to keep dealing with it.

Many married people who are dating outside of their marriage continue to say that they will leave their spouse if you just give them time. If you want to give the person the benefit of the doubt you can always give them a bit of time, but don't assume that they will do this. This is often a stall tactic. Another thing that you have to remember is that if a person was willing to cheat with you, they are probably willing to cheat on you.

Is this the type of person you really want to invest any more time and energy on? This is not to say that you can't have real feelings for a married person, it's just a fact that most relationships that start in an affair end the same way and this really is just not worth it for most people. There are plenty of single people who can provide you with a great experience all around.